Over the last year, as a Pure Romance Consultant, I’ve met well over 500 ladies (clients) and have heard many stories. I’ve heard myths. Misconceptions. Untrue information that these women honestly believe. I’ve gone as far as to ask ladies where they get their information. I would say roughly 80% tell me they get their information from their friends. “My girlfriend told me the G-spot doesn’t really exist. Is this true?” No. “Well my best friend said she had a friend that tried this…. can that really happen?” No. Then came the other 10-15%. Mega-mart magazines. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about. You’re standing in line at the grocery store waiting your turn for checkout, and there it is. Drive your man CRAZY in bed with these 10 tricks, How to make your man melt in your hands tonight, The article so racy we can’t even show you on the cover.
I recently had a conversation with a gentleman in regards to his relationship with his wife, and how he wanted to approach the subject with her about things she does in bed that aren’t…. shall we say THAT GREAT. Painful in some cases. He asked me, “Where do women get their ideas from, of things that men supposedly like?” I gingerly tried to explain, as much as women do gossip and swap stories, bedroom details sometimes are off limits in our conversations, but that I have found they get a good majority of their info from their girlfriends. Then he brought up the issue of magazines. He went on to explain that one night they were fooling around and she tried a new trick and he said although it felt ok at the time, it was painful for days after. He said now she does it ALL the time, to the point where he doesn’t want to have sex, just to avoid her new-found technique.
Don’t get me wrong, I too fall into the spell standing in line at the checkout, and wonder, “Do they know something I don’t?” So for grins and giggles, I’ll pick one up and read it. Are the wrong? Absolutely not. Some of these informational magazines are the best thing in the world for our business. They feature Pure Romance products and sales go through the roof. But don’t go believing everything you read either. You must keep in mind, that unlike those wonderful t-shirt sizes, One Size does NOT fit all. And that goes for what happens behind closed doors. Just because you read that men love to have a woman who is aggressive in the bedroom, doesn’t mean you should run home, tie him up, rough house and have your way with him (although I’m sure a good majority of men would not mind it!) Some men feel threatened by a woman in bed who is more powerful. They feel like they should maintain control. Just like men see porn movies where the guy’s member is ambormally large and thinks, “Well the chick in the movie loved it, maybe she would like a huge vibrator in the bedroom.”
Physically and psychologically we’re not all built the same. What feels great to one woman in bed, may terrify another woman. So by all means, don’t stop buying and reading these mega-mart magazines, just don’t take their word as gospel. Try the new technique, but be sure to tune into your partner’s reaction to see if they truly enjoy it, or if they may be afraid of hurting your feelings if they say they aren’t fond of you doing it. I always tell my clients, be open to trying new things, new ideas, new toys in the bedroom, but be prepared you may not get the reaction you would hope for from your partner. If your partner is trying something with you and you truly do not like it, don’t moan in a fashion that suggests he/she should continue. If it’s painful, then by all means TELL THEM! And if you are trying some new technique, be prepared to have them tell you it’s not that great. It’s not a reflection on you, it’s just not for them. Keep experimenting, and you will both find things you love to try over and over, and make part of your adult-time routine!
