Have you lost that lovin’ feelin’?

Every now an then, we, as women, just don’t feel like it. We’re not in the mood. Our head hurts. We’re tired. Just the mere thought of laying there doing the deed makes us roll our eyes. Is this because we really are not in the mood? Or do we mentally want to, our minds think of what it could be like, but our bodies just refuse to cooperate? Things in our lives get in the way of being intimate with our partners. Stress, medications, age, the thought of uncomfortable sex just turns us off that much more. Let’s begin the journey of arousal creams and what they do for us (men, please stick around, I’ll get to you shortly.)

Stress – You work 40+ hours a week. The car is in the shop again. Your kids need 25 cupcakes by tomorrow morning. You have a stack of laundry that needs to be put away. You have a huge presentation at work tomorrow to prepare for. Your a week away from your period. You spouse just lost his job. These are all stress factors. Stress prevents us from even thinking about getting excited for intimacy. Our physical bodies might be there, but our minds are not. And if our minds aren’t in it, then ladies, it just won’t happen for us tonight. You know, the “Big O”.

Medications – Are you diabetic? Take anti-depressants like Prozac? Did you know your medications can also lower your drive? That’s how I even came into this business. I was put on medication for my MS, and had lost most of my desire for my partner, and not his fault. When I finally gave in and attended a PR party, the consultant suggested it, and what do you know, an arousal cream later, I was raring to go! I thought it was just me getting older!

The thought of uncomfortable sex – Patty Brisben (owner and founder of Pure Romance) compares women to crock pots and men to microwaves. We both do the same thing, it just takes us ladies a little longer to get there. In many cases, just as our engines are warming up to the point of excitement, it’s already over and we’re left wondering what happened and where the heck he went! Men, it takes time for our bodies to catch up with our minds, and time is precious, I know. You have to get our minds going before our bodies catch up. That’s why we need foreplay. Foreplay for a lot of men is her bending over to get the laundry out of the dryer at night and you’re ready to go.

So how will an arousal cream work for you? The most important ingredient in most arousal creams is menthol or mint oil. Ever chew an Altoid and take an open-mouth breath in? Feel cool and refreshing? Well, that same feeling is what happens when you put just a touch of an arousal cream down there. Just a pea-sized amount rubbed on the clitoris (the most sensitive area of a woman’s nether regions), and it begin to send that cooling sensation to our brains, which in turn, forces the body to send more blood flow to our genitals, and causing arousal. Just as a side note – ladies, I highly recommend putting the arousal cream on yourself, because we don’t need to hand it to them and them think they’re down there frosting a cake. PEA SIZE. That’s all we need.

Now men, I haven’t forgotten you. Viagra is everywhere, even NASCAR is being sponsored by them. The day I get Pure Romance on the back of a race car is the day I can quit my job. Until then, I’ll cover how you can benefit from these creams. Pure Romance offers three types of creams. My husband likes to refer to them as “How do you like your taco, Mild, Medium or Hot”, but then again, he’s a huge mexican food lover, so that analogy came easy. The cream we have specifically for both sexes is our X-Scream. And yes, if you use it right, you both will be screaming my name by the end of the night!

The reason X-Scream is unisex is because in our little tiny clitoris, there are 8,000-12,000 nerve endings in something the size of a pea. Men, however, have the same amount of nerve endings in the entire head, shaft and testicles. A lot more area, so you need something stronger, right? X-Scream has double the amount of menthol compared to the other two arousal creams, so this is perfect for both you and her. Another plus- it’s not medication – no prescription required, no doctor visits, no lasting effects (erection 4 hours later?), and you can use it when YOU’RE ready, not when the typical medication tells you you’re ready. How’s that for spontaneous?

I do warn you ladies, if you choose to X-Scream, you had better have your man or a toy ready to go, because you will begin looking at your door knobs in a whole new light if you’re left hanging! Or, if you prefer a night in by yourself, put just a dab on, turn on the ceiling fan, and…. well. You imagine the rest.

~D

Dryness – it’s not just the desert anymore!

Guys, feel free to pass this one by. Ladies, stick around. Things are about to get interesting.

As a PR consultant, I thought I knew a lot about our products. One product in particular, I kept glazing right over, every time I got to it in our catalog. Fresh Start. Sounds like a feminine powder product that we’re all too familiar with as the butt of jokes. Or is it?

While attending one of our team monthly meetings last month, we had a speaker in from corporate (Erin), who discussed the in’s & out’s of each product, one by one. Towards the end of the evening, we got to the back of the catalog to our Vaginal Health section. “Here we go” I thought to myself. I really didn’t need or want to hear about Fresh Start. I’m nice and clean and (most of the time) fresh down there in the nether regions. Then she said the following: “Ladies, most of you are still well within your prime. Fresh Start can make a difference, even for you.” OK, I’ll buy. What’s in it for me? Ladies, each of us go through that wonderful monthly period. We flow like Niagra at the beginning. We use tampons. We begin to dry up towards the end. Then comes the pulling and tugging of those last few tampons, like pulling the Titanic out of the iceberg. OK, well maybe she didn’t say it that way verbatim, but that’s what I heard. And I truly related.

Have you done this? You wear tampons to keep things from dripping out, then come the time when you no longer need the tampon, that last one is like pulling the plug on a drain that is super-glued shut? You feel like you’re pulling out our tonsils through the bottom half of your body? You sometimes silently swear you will never use tampons again? WELCOME TO VAGINAL DRYNESS.

I always thought vaginal dryness was for women who were old. I’m not old. I’m not dry (most of the time). I’m a mere 33 years young! But when Erin brought up this subject of dryness due to tampon use, and Mother Nature’s evil ways, I knew this was for me! So I set out on a quest to seek the fountain of youth. Or at least the fountain of moisturization.

2-3 days a week, use Fresh Start (FS) at night before bedtime (very similar to using cream for yeast infections). Overnight this moisturizer will absorb into the vaginal walls and make not only tampon removal easier, but sex better because the moisture content has been raised. Now I must warn you, this will NOT replace your lubricant for sex. You will still need that, no doubt in my mind, but FS will make your lives much more comfortable. No more vaginal chaffing, no more tugging on that elusive string at the end of each month. Doesn’t that sound nice? When the girls above the waist and the ladies below the waist are happy, so is the rest of the world! Maybe we could bring about world peace if every lady wasn’t dried out?

Contact me today to purchase your very own fountain of moisture youth!

Happy Romancing!

~Deb

Taking care of your toys

As a novice user of toys years ago, I never thought twice about using them, throwing them under the bed after, tossing them into a shoebox or when I did clean them, doing so with soap. I am here to tell you, “SHAME ON YOU IF YOU DO THIS!”

After becoming a consultant, I truly learned the significance of properly cleaning bedroom accessories. Whether you are using a simple vibrating bullet, a dual action vibrator, a glass dildo or even anal beads, please clean them properly! Most toys are made of a silicone base, which over time will begin to break down. They develop microscopic holes in the outer layer which will begin to harbor bacteria. I always tell my girls at my demos, “Never put anything in your private areas that you wouldn’t immediately pick up and put in your mouth.” Think about it. Would you pick something up off the floor (back to my toys being tossed on the floor after play, sitting under the bed for a week), and lick them? If that didn’t turn your stomach, think of the misinformed ladies that have chosen to clean their toys with soap, or worse yet, LYSOL! Yes. I have heard of clients using Lysol on their toys. Would you spray that in your most private areas or in your mouth? Probably not. So how does one “properly” clean toys? Glad you asked!

Pure Romance offers a cleaner called Come Clean, that after play, you can rinse your toys under hot water (mostly to remove the semen and/or vaginal secretions, then, take our Come Clean and liberally spray the toy. Leave the spray on the accessory for at least 30 seconds, then wipe with a clean cloth. I always suggest that before you use that toy again you do the same – spray, wait, wipe. This will remove any bacteria and dust that may have built up on the toy since the previous use.

One of Pure Romance’s newest additions is the Sugar Sak. 

The Sugar Sak is a must-have that should be used with all of Pure Romance’s bedroom accessories. The inner lining is coated with Bioshield 75, which is EPA-approved to inhibit the growth of bacteria, yeast, and mold during storage. The sexy bag keeps your toys well hidden, while also keeping them clean and safe to use. Not only is this new product toy-friendly, it’s very sexy, in satin fuchsia and silver!

Special on the Sugar Sak- Order $150 in Pure Romance Product, I will send you the Sugar Sak absolutely FREE ($15 value!) Send me an email with your order to DeborahLParker@pureromance.com and the coupon code SUGARSAK0809, and I will ship it to you at no charge!

*Note: This offer is not valid through any other consultant, or via website orders. Email or phone orders only! Offer ends 09/15/09.

Have another Romantic Day!

~Deborah

Learning the back 9

So there is never an easy way to approach the subject of anal play – for men or women. During all of my demonstrations, everything goes great and everyone laughs and has a great time until I get to the subject of anal play. Then I either get silence, or the inevitable lady who yells, “Girl, that is EXIT ONLY!”  I truly believe that people have this idea that it’s taboo. It’s what porn movies are made of. It’s sinful. It’s for gay men only. Well, regardless of that myth, according to 2007 statistics of married couples, over 1/3 have had or tried anal play.I think of it as like your mom used to say with eating your vegetables, “How can you say you don’t like it if you’ve never tried it?”

During my demo, I make a point to my ladies that if they have never tried it, and their mate nags them to do it, I tell them, “You go tell him if he wants YOU to try it, then he should be willing to try it too.” Men, having anal play done to you doesn’t make you gay, homosexual or a fruit. So I say, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Right ladies?

Several important factors to keep in mind during play is 1) Lubrication  2) Communication  3) Relaxation. But before we commence to the actual act of, one VERY important thing to consider is the type of toy you want to use.

Many novice players start with a pinky finger (well lubed, and short trimmed nails please!) because it is a much smaller instrument than most anal toys. If you are choosing a toy, please follow these rules. The sphincter muscle around the anus serves two purposes – to keep waste in (when we need to go but can’t find a bathroom), and to let waste out (when we finally have the seat to go on!) With that said, anything that is inserted into the anal cavity will be “sucked in” automatically, so whatever toy you choose, should have a flared base. Think of it this way – make a tight “ok” symbol with your fingers. If you can stick the toy in and the base stops it, you are good to go. If you can continue to push the toy in (think a straight vibrator), then that’s a toy to avoid. Some toys come with rings on them so you can keep a loop attached to your finger to avoid loss. That is ok to use as well. Now back to the THREE RULES.

1) Lubrication – the anal cavity does not produce its own lubrication, therefore, you need to use one. The best kind to use are silicone-based lubricants. From the Pure Romance line I suggest Pure Pleasure. It is very slippery and viscous, so it will help things slide much easier than a water-based lubricant. You can apply some of the lubricant to the toy as well as the anus to provide a better contact, without all the friction.

2) Communication – Men, if you are partaking in the action and your lady is the receiver, you can’t just ramming things in there. And ladies, same goes for you with your man. Take your time. You must communicate with each other. If it hurts a little, tell him/her to slow down and let you get used to the feeling. ladies, if you are using beads on your man, the way for them to truly enjoy the feeling is at the height of his orgasm. By placing beads inside the anus, it puts pressure on their prostate, which is the equivalent to the female G-spot (and we all know how much we love that!) So at the height of orgasm, men, you need to let your gal know you are about to ejaculate, about to blow, or made it the code word “Yeehaw!” and at that very moment, you slowly but firmly pull the beads out one by one during his orgasm. I have been told by several ladies that purchased beads that their men LOVE to have them used on him, and it’s the best sex they’ve ever encountered.

3) Relaxation – This is a MUST. Start SLOW. To both men and women – you can’t just pump in and out. The back door is not meant for that. Go slow and steady in and then hold it there for a few moments. Then SLOWLY pull out. If it is too painful for in and out, some people like having the object there, and just wiggled a little bit. For beginners I suggest using a tapered toy that starts small and progresses in size as its inserted. Pure Romance’s Joy Stick or Ridin’ Dirty is perfect for this. Both have a flared base, and graduated, tapered size. If this is the first time partaking in anal play, there’s no doubt that you will be anxious, and from all the horror stories your friends have probably filled your mind with you’re probably afraid of pain. Take some slow deep breaths, and try to visualize your sphincter muscle opening up and relaxing. You can even try to bare down a bit to try to allow your muscle to open up. But with plenty of lubricant, you shouldn’t have too much of a problem.

One other product that I suggest for novice beginners is our Booty Eaze. It is not a lubricant, it’s a numbing gel for the anal muscles. You don’t insert the B.E. into the rectum, just around the very outer edge, to help ease the discomfort that may be encountered. Allow the B.E. to work for several minutes while you continue other forms of play to get relaxed.

One VERY IMPORTANT FACTOR to keep in mind – never ever cross-contiminate. Whatever goes in your vajajay, NEVER goes into the rectum and back. There are multitudes of bacteria in each region and they should never be mixed. Whatever toys you use for anal should stay for anal only, and those for our vaginas should stay vajajay bound! The only exception to this rule is if you use condoms on your toys, but use a seperate condom for each insertion.

So for today’s lesson, I offer up this special sale-

1 tube of Booty Eaze (reg. $9.50), 1 Joy Stick (reg. $19.50) and 1 Pure Pleasure (reg. $13.00) all for $35.00 (plus taxes & S&H)!

Email me your order request (DeborahLParker@pureromance.com), good through 8/31 while supplies last! Promo not valid on my website, but feel free to visit to see the products! http://www.debparker.pureromance.com

~Deb

Have you ever been in business for yourself?

So I thought I would take today and be a little self-promoting. I joined Pure Romance in March, thinking this would tie me over until a regular, full-time 8-5 job came along. Truth of the matter is, I LOVE doing this job! I could easily see myself doing this job full time, all the time, once my parties start to pick up in the fall. Side note: Summer is a slow season for ANY in-home party company just because people are busy outside enjoying the weather, hitting the beach or pool, having BBQ’s, and so-forth.

Now, question is: Have you ever been in business for yourself? Regardless of your situation, EVERYONE wants more money. More income. Maybe you WANT additional funds just to pay for a really nice vacation next year. Maybe you NEED more money to get your clunker car fixed. Maybe you are a stay-at-home mom and just WANT to get out of the house and hang out with the girls? Whatever your want or need is, having your own business provides that. I started off putting in 8 full hours a day to get up and running. I was on unemployment, so why not spend the time I would have been at a full time job, doing just that? There’s more to it than what most people think with in-home direct businesses. You can’t just order your kit, have it arrive and be ready to do your first show the next night. You need supplies. You need to practice your demo. You need to see, touch, taste, feel all the products (which by the way is a blast when selling PR products, for you and your honey!) After all, you can’t sell what you don’t know about! But relatively speaking, you can be ready in a week. The thought of being in business FOR myself, but not BY myself is even better. PR offers a TON of help whether it be from your upline (referred to as your mom, grandma, sisters, aunts, etc), or if you hit the web forums for advice, or even just calling corporate. They can answer almost any question you have immediately.

It’s nice to know that right now, my kids start school in August. I can be there the day they get on the school bus and wave goodbye, AND be there when they get off the bus to see how their day went. And not have to take a formal “vacation day” as in the corporate world. Does the school PTO/PTA have a function and need a chaperone? I’m there! Need to take a sick kid to the doctor? Yup. I’m there. Service man coming to fix the dryer? You got it. I make my schedule as busy as I want it, or if I want to take two weeks off to reboot, relax, and refresh, I can do that! As Apple says about their iPhone – “There’s an app for that!”

One of the best things about selling Pure Romance is that in this economy, a lot of families and couples are opting to stay home on the weekend versus heading out to the restaurants and movies. So what do they do at home together? You got it, again. They have sex! So you can only imagine that our business hasn’t seen the huge decline in sales like other in-home businesses. I’m not saying that some of the other businesses are doing horrible by any means. If I had my choice of a ladies night in, and I was getting free gifts and incentives, what would I buy? A candle to make my house pretty, or buy something to use with my partner to spice up our relationship? I know what my choice would be. Would my friends want to come to a party to buy unnecessary home decor? Pretty glass vases? Even over-priced makeup? Probably not. I hate to be cliche, but SEX SELLS. You don’t have to have a partner to be interested in our products. Self-indulgence is another consideration. Buy yourself some Romance Bubbles and a Pulsating Bath Ball, grab a glass of wine and sit in your tub all alone on a Saturday night and have a ball!!!

So with that, I offer up our NEW incentive to be a Pure Romance Consultant.

Bronze Kit : Valued over $500.00
Your Cost: WAS $250.00, NOW $149.00
This kit includes a variety of our top-selling products for display and sampling at your first party. Selecting this affordable kit will help you establish your business for a low start-up cost.

Silver Kit : Limited Offer! Valued over $1000.00

Your Cost: WAS $500.00, NOW $299.00

This kit provides products for display and sampling in addition to products for you to sell the evening of your first party, helping you generate sales immediately.

Gold Kit : 50% Buying Discount For Life! Valued over $2000.00

Your Cost: $1,000.00

This kit offers all of Pure Romance’s top-selling products, ensuring that you will have all the products necessary for display and sampling at your party, as well as products to sell that same night.

Now, if I know the world-wide web the I think I do, you are sitting reading this from 1,000 miles away from me, in Illinois. Does this mean you can’t sign up as my Pure Romance Daughter? Absolutely not! As your “PR mom”, I am there every step of the way for you! I’m a phone call, email, or Facebook chat away! All you do is let me know you are interested in selling PR, and I can discuss the in’s and out’s of the business, what I like, what I LOVE, and how you can do it too. PR offers tons of buying discounts, sales for consultants, free products, free testers, FREE TRIPS. Yes, that’s right, free trips! Corporate holds their Annual Training in August in Ohio, then National Convention in March (in LAS VEGAS!). You do pay for those conventions, but you can earn credits towards paying for your room in Vegas, or you can use those credits to shop with at Patty’s exclusive store. The store has things from jewelry (yes, real gold & silver), to Coach purses, spa packages, gift cards and much much more! There is so much information that I can’t possibly write it all out. So drop me a note and let me know that you are ready to enjoy your freedom from punching clocks, or that you just want that extra money to spend as you please.

I’m sure one nagging question you may have is, “How do I pay for my kit?” Simple. If you have the money to pay for it, you contact me and I will get you set up with your kit. if you DON’T have the money for your kit, and if you are local (within relative driving distance from me), you can hold your own Pure Romance Debut Party. I will come out to your party, even do your party demo, using my own kit, and whatever profit is made from sales at YOUR party, will go to pay for your kit! You can’t beat that! You have a party and get a free kit to start your own business??? Too easy!

Your business is what YOU make of it. Put in a little work, and it well more than pays off in the end!

Pure Romance product featured in Glamour magazine

Once again, another Pure Romance product is featured in a national magazine, this time in Glamour. If the editors of Glamour suggest it, you KNOW it’s got to be good!

Nectar Connector – Sometimes vibrators that look nothing like a body part are the easiest to experiment with—especially for sex-toy newbies. “It doesn’t get any more discreet than this hummingbird multispeed clitoral vibrator,” says Patty Brisben, founder and CEO of Pure Romance. “For those who are turned off by phallic-shaped toys or are looking for one-of-a-kind clitoral stimulation, this is the toy for them.”

View it here – http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2009/07/6-non-scary-sex-toys-to-try-tonight#slide=2

Retails for $24, on sale through me for $22 though July 31st! Order yours today! deborahlparker@pureromance.com reference “NECTAR” to get it on special! *S&H + taxes additional*

~Deb

Why we dread the “in-home” parties

So this is my theory, and my theory only. I grew up in an age where Tupperware, Mary Kay and other in-home parties were the rage. My mom even got sucked into selling MK. She loved it, for a while. So when I told her I was selling Pure Romance, she said, “Well, the hardest part was getting people to book parties from parties.” If she only knew how right she was!

So since starting my business in March of this year, I have not done so well in booking parties from parties. I’ve resorted to my friends, family, former co-workers, my co-workers wives, and even a lot of networking. So what seems to be the problem? People appear to have a fear of having their own parties. “I don’t know who I would invite.” “I’m too busy to have one.” “I just don’t have the money to have one.” “My house is too small to hold a lot of people.” All very legitimate reasons, right? WRONG. I’ve been to these parties myself (held by my friends) – Arbonne, Tupperware, Princess House, Pampered Chef. But did I volunteer to hold any of my own from these parties? Nope. Not a chance. Why? You feel guilted into doing it. You hear from the rep, “By holding your own party, you get blah blah blah for free, AND your friend tonight holding the party will get blah blah blah PLUS blah blah just because YOU booked a party of your own! You want to help your friend out don’t you??” Great. No pressure there. Maybe my lack of booking for friends in the past is Karma on my part. It’s coming back to haunt me.

These days I am a huge party planner. I love to entertain. I love to cook, make wonderful appetizers, have friends in my home, but a lot of people dread it. Did you ever consider doing a non-party party? What’s that you ask? Commonly referred to as catalog parties, or web parties, or virtual parties! No purchasing food, drinks, ice, party supplies, late nights, set up, clean up….it’s all eliminated, and you get the same benefits as hosting a real party! And even better? You can host a party of almost any kind with a rep halfway across the world if you wanted to! Just because I am located in Illinois, doesn’t mean I can’t have you as a hostess out in California, New York or Florida!

Here’s how it works – you contact me and say, “Yes Deb, I want to have a party, but I live 500 miles away!” I tell you, “OK, then we’ll do a virtual party.” You invite all of your friends to a virtual catalog party. I can send you several catalogs in the mail to give out to those who aren’t tech savvy, and they can call or email me their order. For those who are familiar with the internet, they visit my site http://www.debparker.pureromance.com and take all the time they need to browse. We will determine a time frame for your party (3-5 days in length), then we close out your party. If your party is over $300, you receive a free gift just for “hosting” plus your 10% ($30) in FREE PRODUCT! If your friends buy $500, you automatically get $50 in free product PLUS the FREE GIFT.

What happens after the “party”? Well, you don’t receive anything except what YOU ordered. I take care of all the shipping to everyone’s home, and it’s all discreetly packaged, so no one knows what’s in the box, not even the UPS man! Orders are usually received in 10 business days from the day your party is closed.

It’s that easy! Who says you have to have a party to have a party?!?!? Skip the set up, the invitations, the cooking, the clean up for summer. This is a perfect way to get your own free products, and have fun shopping! Contact me now if you are interested in hosting your own Pure Romance Party!

DeborahLParker@pureromance.com

~Deb

So when I’m told to “Get a real job….”

This article is compliments of http://www.lemonaidlady.com and just had to share. You don’t realize how we affect the economy until you read this!!!

January, 2009: Recently the world witnessed the change in command of the commander in chief of the United States of America. Whether or not you agree with President Barack Obama’s policies, his charge to each of us to actively participate in restoring the American dream in spite of many challenges we face is something that, yes…we can do!

As direct sellers, there is much we do to boost the economy of our nation while growing our businesses. It is time to TWIST from victim ranks to volunteer status and take action; thus showing our true patriotism.

We all know that our business opportunity can be the lifesaver people need in times like this. Thank heavens we’re the only person who can “downsize” ourselves!

Recently, the media has spotlighted many individual direct sales consultants as well as specific companies to show how the direct sales industry actually thrives in a recession. So, yes, we have huge pools of recruiting prospects.

In order to keep our companies at the corporate level growing and supporting our individual businesses, millions of people and their industries provide necessary products and services. If these positions or services have been or will be eliminated each of us could be adversely affected.

Have you taken the time to think how many people you, as a direct sales consultant, keep employed?

PRINTING COMPANIES
Let’s take the scenario of scheduling a home presentation. First, you provide your hostess with literature that a printing company was contracted to print. The printer purchased ink and paper for the literature. You support people in both those industries as well, not to mention the buildings, equipment and other supplies the printer and his/her vendors use.

POST OFFICE, TRANSPORTATION INDUSTRIES
You or your hostess mail out the invitations. You’re keeping the Post Office and other industries in business. From the employees you see at the counter (and talk to about your buying or selling your product) to those who sort behind the scenes. Stamps must be printed. We’re helping the printing industry again. Someone picks up the mail in a truck that was purchased from an automobile company, an ailing industry, and will need gasoline and other automotive equipment.

In many cases the mail is sent on planes (if your hostess is inviting EVERYONE she knows). Someone is paid to handle the bags of mail and get it on the planes. Then private or commercial carriers who employ thousands of people get the mail to the post office in the areas where you or your hostess are sending invitations. Then someone else personally delivers the mail.

TELECOMMUNICATIONS COMPANIES
Meanwhile, back at home. You’re using your telephone and Internet services to connect with the hostess, at the same time benefiting the telecommunications industry. Your hostess is using her phone and computer and probably thinking about what kinds of refreshments she’ll serve.

GROCERY STORES
She goes shopping and buys simple refreshments: cookies. Thank heavens, those little elves will be kept busy baking if we keep them supplied with lots of hostesses! While she’s at the store, she sees other things she needs for her family and spends a minimum of fifty dollars. Each of those dollars helps support the companies whose products she just purchased, not to mention keeping the local stores in business, which employ your neighbors and friends; your future customers and recruits!

AT THE PARTY
When guests come to the party, they usually drive (remember she invited people from all over). They are using gasoline and automobiles to get there, or even the local mass transit system, all of which employ people. If they didn’t want to bring their children and hubby is at work or out of town, your guests might hire a teenager to watch the kids. A teenager who will keep the malls in business with the wages they receive.

BEHIND THE SCENES: MANUFACTURING
Now your guests arrive and BUY YOUR PRODUCT! Who are they helping? Not just you and your hostess but also the factory that manufactures your product. The employees of the factory are not the only ones involved. Think of the people who work in the factories of the vendors who supply materials to your company’s factory. In many cases your company uses several factories and numerous vendors! Think of all the people each of these employ.

BEHIND THE SCENES: HOME OFFICE
Your company also has management support teams who assist you in your business. These departments range from accounting to computer support to marketing to training to the building engineers who keep the facilities clean. Each of these departments use computers, paper, office furniture, utilities, and other supplies. You are helping each of them retain their positions along with the people who work for the companies providing the services and products they consume.

INFLUENCING GUESTS
Now you’re excited and so is your hostess because everyone thanks you both for having the party to get them out of their homes and away from the bad economic news on TV, radio and Internet. They are so thrilled to see your sunny smile, pleasant personality and feel of your selfless service as you teach them about how your product will benefit them. They have FUN!!! Several guests schedule their own parties, and the cycle multiplies.

YOUR PERSONAL ECONOMY
But wait! You just earned some big bucks!! Now you can go pick up the lay away (yes, people are using this system again) you had at the mall, pay for your son’s soccer registration, invest in some of your favorite stocks, take the family out for a celebration dinner, and on and on. How many people’s lives will you bless by shopping, eating out, investing?

RECRUITING ADDS TO THE ECONOMY
But there is more! As you continue to do this you’ll be a “people magnet” who will attract others to join your team, and there will be more consultants to service more hostesses who will add to the economic stability in more people’s lives. Furthermore, the more people who have more paychecks, the more they’ll have purchasing power at your parties from other businesses–this really is a sharing industry. This keeps getting better…as you sell more of your product and share with more people, you qualify for your company’s car program and/or earn promotional gifts. Can you do the “lemon link” yourself and picture who has a job because you’ve done yours so well?

BEYOND YOUR BACKYARD
The best news: you realize you’ve qualified for the incentive trip!!! Hooray! Hooray! Now, you just keep helping more and more people. Your company contracts with a travel service all run by real human beings who make all the arrangements. They purchase airline tickets, ground transportation, hotel accommodations, local entertainment and yummy food! Additionally, you take your own spending money and add to the location’s tourism business. Putting more paychecks in more people’s pockets. WOW! Can you see the potential impact you have for MILLIONS of people who lives you can reach without actually touching or meeting them? Can you see the way direct selling professionals can give our nation and others an economic jumpstart?

DIRECT SALES ADDS MORE REAL JOBS TO THE ECONOMY
Next time someone suggests you get a “real job” share this article with them so they’ll see how the entire Direct Sales Industry has the potential to boost the personal economy of millions of people.

Now if you want a “REAL” job, contact me directly and I can help you make money, not only an independent direct seller, but also as an individual helping the economy in the process! deborahlparker@pureromance.com or call me at 847-736-6559.

Getting to the Land of ‘O’

As I started my journey of sex at the tender age of 19 (yes, that’s right, 19), I had no clue about orgasms. Well, I did, and I didn’t. I had began pleasuring myself at the age of 12 or so, but I had no idea what I was feeling was called an orgasm. My first time (intercourse) was at the age of 19, with a man who was already divorced, MUCH more experienced than I, and may I say, quite endowed. I will add here that size DOES matter, but not for the better in most cases, but that’s a whole other blog post to come! I thought to myself, I will be able to experience it all, the first time with him! Whoa. Wrong. Back up. Try again. It was the worst pain I had ever felt before (again, he was VERY well endowed), and I was a virgin who had no clue what my role was. I didn’t realize I was supposed to be able to have an orgasm too. If I only knew then what I know now!

Fast forward about 12 years. I have been married over 10 years, had two children, and love my husband very much. I was about to embark on my own pursuit of happiness with Pure Romance. I learned all I could about womens bodies, mens bodies, the sexual organs, what happens when we age, and yes, the orgasms that come along with it all. Now I am here to tell you. So sit up straight, and follow along. This ride is about to get interesting.

There are 3 general types of orgasms, but I personally believe in 4 (for the ladies).

The first is a clitoral orgasm. This is when there is stimulation to the clitoris, or the top outer edge of the labia, the hood, the clit. Sometimes women prefer direct stimulation, oral, vibrators or just simple pressure. This is where clitoral vibes are of help. I like to refer to them as tiny vibrating mice. They can be cute, small and ooooh so powerful. You’ve heard a little dab’ll do ya? Amen!This is also where some women can wear just the right thing and thank themselves every time they wear it, because they wear it with a smile. Yes, we CAN have one form our clothing alone. Are you jealous yet?

Second is the vaginal orgasm. Most women do not experience this type but for those of you who can, god bless you! Vaginal vibrators are meant for insertion and vibration, or some women can reach vaginal ‘O’s’ just by penetration, requiring dildos (or non-vibrating devices). I love our Mr. Dependable for this. He has a nice suction cup to stick the shower door, the toilet seat, the washing machine, the wall. Whatever your pleasure, he’ll never let you down.

Third is the ‘BIG O’ or G-Spot orgasm. This is the ultimate of all ultimate orgasms for the ladies. Men, to find this little slice of heaven, have your gal lie on her back, face up. Insert your index and middle finger face up, up to about your second knuckle. Make a “come here” motion with your fingers. You will feel a small “shelf” somewhere between the 12 & 2 o’clock position. This is generally where the woman’s G-Spot resides. It’s not in the exact same place on all women, that’s why it’s so darned hard to find! Now, again, as in previous posts, you can’t just hop into bed, reach up in there and get an instant reaction. Well, you might, but it may very well be a slap to the head and “What the heck are ya doing down there?” Not what you’re looking for. Get her revved up first (see my previous entries to accomplish this). Once she is hot to trot, then make your move. Women have also found that if you put your other hand on their stomachs around their pelvic bone and GENTLY put pressure on it, it will force the g-spot down just a bit. If she tells you she feels like she’s going to pee, YOU’VE HIT THE SPOT! Yes, the sensation of hitting the G will make us feel like we’re going to wet the bed, but I promise you, that’s not the case. Search long and hard, and I promise you that you WILL be rewarded. Just don’t get up on the bed and start making those silly “Touchdown” dances. OK?

Last but not least, in my personal opinion is the anal orgasm. There is varying evidence on this one, but I truly believe it exists. Men get a much stronger orgasm from anal play than the ladies only because anal play for men puts pressure on their prostate, which will cause a great deal of pleasure for them. Don’t count us ladies out though. If a woman is aroused enough, and you start with something very small (your pinky, nails trimmed, and finger well lubed please), works great. Two grave things to remember, LUBRICATION AND NO CROSS CONTAMINATION. Always use lube (and spit does not count), and never put the same instrument in our anal cavity that you do in our vajajays and vice versus. We can get yeast and bacterial infections, so this is a big no no. Also, any toy you use back there and you intend to use at some other point in the vagina, use condoms. You can clean your toy very well, but because most toys are semi-porous, they still will harbor bacteria, not meant to be cross inserted. Best rule of thumb – have one toy for the front, and one toy for the rear. No pun intended.

Finally – words of wisdom. Invest in lubrication (regardless of the orifice), and without a doubt, always purchase toy cleaner (I like our Come Clean). You spend good money on your bedroom accessories, don’t use soap, or heaven forbid, LYSOL. Yes, we’ve had horror stories amongst my fellow PR sisters about customers using Lysol to “kill the germs” on the favorite accessories. No, no, no, NO! Toy cleaner only please!

~Deb

“I feel the need – the need for speed!”

In today’s society, for the busy woman, our lives consist of spouses, children, laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, errands, soccer games, grocery store trips, fixing lunches for school kids, finding that lost soccer cleat for a game they are already late for, and much much more. Men on the other hand (in most cases), get up, get ready for work (a whole 10 minute ordeal), grab a cup of coffee and head to work. They do their 8-10 hours of work, come home to a cooked meal, watch some TV and if they are lucky, might get a little lovin’ before they hit the sack. It’s no wonder that women are run down, tired and in some cases turned into zombies by the time their heads hit the pillow. And now their dearest husands want them to partake in a quickie?

Take into consideration the fact that mens and womens bodies react differently to sex, and being turned on. Our consultants refer to it as, “Men are like microwaves, and women are like crock pots.” We all get to the same boiling point, it just takes us ladies a little longer to get there. Women are also emotional creatures – we love to be kissed, caressed, held, fondled, talked to, and then get into the good stuff. Men on the other hand, the lady of the house bends over to take a pizza out of the oven, and BAM! The men are raring to go! Guys, you can’t always just throw us on the bed like Fabio and expect us to be into it, let alone have our bodies prepared for it (lubrication). It takes time to get our engines running, but there are products on the market that do help speed up that process and help both of us!

Pure Romance offers a line of heightners that range from mild to wild. Ex-T-Cee is the mildest heightener. This is a mint oil based product. As an air activated product, it gives you the same feeling you get when you eat an Altoid and breathe in. Refreshing right? Well, Ex-T-Cee gives you that same feeling. Put a little on, lie on the bed and turn the ceiling fan on for loads of fun by yourself! Next in the levels from mild to wild is the Nympho Niagra. This is an excellent product for women who are prone to yeast or bacterial infections. It is also colorless, odorless and flavorless. This product is menthol based, so it is a little stronger than our Ex-T-Cee. It will definitely help to get your engine running! Lastly, is X-Scream. This is the wildest of the wild, and is our only unisex heightener. X-Scream has DOUBLE the menthol that Nympho has, and is of great help to ladies who have a very low sex drive, are on medications (like antidepressants), or for ladies who are very familiar with heighteners and want a little more vavoom!

Now also keep in mind a few little known facts –

1) Sex is healthy. It helps alleviate headaches. By having sex with a headache, your body opens up the capillaries and veins and allows the blood to flow freely. This will help get rid of that nagging aching head you’ve had all day!

2) Sex is a better pain killer than prescription vicodin. Hormones that are released during sexual excitement and orgasm can elevate pain thresholds.

3) A 30-minute lovemaking session can burn upwards of 85 calories. So what if you skipped them gym today? Have a little fun when you get home!

4) Aim for better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections.

So the best part of today lesson, sex is healthy, and once us crockpots make it to the same cooking levels as you microwaves out there, we’ll all have a happier, healthier living!

~Deb