OK guys, the ladies had their lesson, and “push” of why oral is pleasurable, now it’s your turn.
I have talked to many men in regards to giving oral to the ladies, and there isn’t so much pushback of “I don’t like to” as there is “I’m not sure how” or “Am I doing it right?” So here is your lesson for the day. How to give great oral.
To begin with, there is no “right way” to do it. Every man finds his own technique, and every woman is different, so what your previous partner may have loved, may not drive your current lady wild. So when you’ve got your technique down to a science, don’t go hi-fiving your buddies thinking you know what she likes.
First off, understand that a woman’s erogenous zone is packed with 8,000-12,000 nerve endings in the clitoris alone; whereas your head, shaft and testicles have that many in that large of an area. Don’t start off heading straight for the gold. It takes us gals a little longer to warm up than it does the men. This is called FOREPLAY. Warm us up before you go rubbing and grabbing down there. You can start our engines by kissing, caressing, massaging gently all parts of our bodies, not just our erogenous zones. Take your time. There’s no rush. Well, unless you have kids, then your time may be limited!
One sure-fire way to get us going – come close to touching our zones, then move away. For example, try kissing our inner thighs, moving closer to the touchdown, then pull back and kiss our stomachs. It’s all about anticipation. Next, when you move in for the kill, don’t start rubbing like your trying to start a fire with two sticks down there. GENTLENESS is a priority.
There are five major areas in our genital areas- the labia majora (outer lips), labia minor (inner lips), clitorial hood (which covers the clitoris), the clitoris and of course the vagina. Treat each one of these as their own entity. We’re entitled! If you are laying facing our vagina head-on, you will find that the clitoral hood covers the clitoris. Again, gently pull back the hood to expose the clitoris. It will feel almost like a tiny rubbery pebble. It is extremely sensitive to the touch, so do not use a dry finger to touch it. At this point, it is best to suggest a lubricant, for you and for her.
One of Pure Romance’s top selling lubricants is now Sweet Seduction in Vanilla. Many consultants like to refer to it as “He can have his cake and eat you too” because it tastes just like good ‘ol fashioned birthday cake! It’s a water-based lubricant which is safe for use with latex condoms.It works with a woman’s natural lubrication and has a re-wetting quality. It will continue to work about as long as you do!
Put just a dime size amount on your finger and gently rub it into her vaginal areas, ensuring that every part is well coated. This will prevent friction, and in turn, will lower her chance of a yeast or bacterial infection. Now from here, some men vary on their technique for oral. I’ve heard some say they lick the alphabet, others lick to the speed of a song in the heads…whatever works for you. The point here is, listen to her, and be in tune with how her body reacts. If she feels like she’s pulling away from you, then stop that technique. It may be causing pain, or for some, they are still a little too sensitive at this point of play. Move on to another technique and come back to that one again later. If you get the same reaction, then I suggest not trying that one again! If she moans in pleasure, then take heed she is liking your moves, and continue onward!
A few other things to keep in mind- we don’t JUST want our vaginas touched, licked, sucked. This is when it helps to multi-task. Caress her breasts. Rub her outer thighs. If she enjoys, then try inserting a toy. Some women like the combination of both oral and toy play. Some women have also reported to enjoy having the clitoris “hummed” on. To do this, wrap your lips around her clitoris sucking it into your mouth, then lightly hum. It’s like having a human vibrator! But men, by no means should you ever, EVER blow into the vagina. This is medically dangerous to a woman.
So there you have it guys. A girls guidance to give oral to another lady. Who better would know than another gal? We’re all different but we talk. We discuss what we like with other friends. Now we let you in on the secret, GO OUT THERE AND GET HER!
~Deb
Pure Romance By Deb 